When I think about what an individual or couple needs from a therapist, it's a listener who hears what is missing in their story - what they haven't thought of, what questions they haven't asked that will help expand their perspectives. You need me to empathically inquire, to stimulate curiosity and self-examination to open new ways of thinking, feeling and communicating. With this in mind, I pay particular attention to what emotions or thoughts may be present, but are just out of awareness.
A collaborative dialogue and the establishment of a safe environment based on a non-judgmental attitude are key for therapy to be successful. Over time, I hope to impart the "skill" of curiosity about oneself rather than reactive or critical responses to one's feelings or actions. This also entails learning to tolerate the anxiety that is inherent in growth and change.
I encourage looking at both the here-and- now and one's life history, as this emerges in an organic manner. I believe that our past experience affects current behavior, our strengths, our blind spots and our traumatic experiences. I adjust my participation to each patient's or couple's needs. The nature of the problem, degree of comfort with self-disclosure, newness to therapy and more will all influence my approach. This includes my being open to an exchange about how the work is proceeding.
I have found that there are some common goals that frequently emerge in my work:
• Being able to better communicate with others, including resolving conflict
• Getting "unstuck" from patterns and being more able to make life decisions
• Becoming more able to negotiate emotions in relationships or at work
• Addressing depression or anxiety
• Resolving loss
• Better knowing oneself
My goal is to ever expand my patients' perspectives and ways of being in the world, and thus,
achieve greater satisfaction in their lives, to be able to both experience joy and to feel strength in
handling life's stresses.
In addition to my 30 years of experience working with diverse patients, I have served as teacher
and supervisor in schools of Social Work and Psychoanalytic Training Institutes.
Please call or email if you are interested in a consultation.